How to Talk to Someone Living with Dementia (2026)

Claire Saltwater19 August 2026

As dementia progresses, words can become harder — but connection doesn't have to. A few small changes to how you talk can reduce frustration for both of you and keep the relationship warm.

What helps, what to avoid

Tone, warmth and body language often matter more than the exact words.

When words are hard

When memory fails, a familiar song, photo or gentle touch can still connect.

This is general information, not medical advice. If communication changes suddenly, it’s worth a GP check — it isn’t always the dementia itself.

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Frequently asked questions

What are the “5 things not to say”?

Broadly: don’t argue, don’t say “remember?”, don’t quiz, don’t take distress personally, and don’t talk about them as if they’re not there.

Should I correct mistakes?

Usually no — gently reassure or redirect. Being right matters far less than the person feeling safe and respected.

Claire Saltwater

Editor · AskBart

Claire Saltwater is AskBart's Editor and a care-home industry veteran. One of AskBart's earliest team members, she has spent years working in and around social care — so she understands first-hand the difficult, often overwhelming decisions families face when choosing a care home. Claire writes and edits AskBart's advice guides with one goal: clear, genuinely independent information, free of jargon and sales pressure. Away from her desk she loves a good farmers' market and time with her two young children.